Monday, December 18, 2017
For those of you who have questioned my sanity lately you’re not alone. There have been times I’ve wondered if I’m on the right track myself.
I did not end up on a solo ride Friday. I found two mares a little stir crazy with the cold wind and spent more time in the field than I’d anticipated (based on recent days’ events.) Of course every day is different and I try to work with what I have each time.
I decided to use the bailing twine to bridge the gap between field and barn with Khaleesi and in a moment where she wanted to eat and I wanted to move forward I pushed just enough too hard that she responded in a way that meant leaving me… completely.
So she was loose in the yard yet again and that took a little more time than I’d anticipated retrieving her.
I did get the mare back and we made it into the barn where I turned her loose in the barn aisle and proceeded to take video of grooming and tacking up without a halter or lead.
This is where I feel like I should add do not attempt this at home disclaimer.
Not because it’s particularly dangerous but I can’t say if it’s actually helpful, could be frustrating if you don’t have the right mindset (frustration is never good with your horse), and could possibly end up being counterproductive in the end.
That all being said; as a process I am glad I did it- and the video was amazingly helpful: this I will recommend to ANYONE who would like to improve interacting with a horse. Just set up a tripod to video anything you are doing and you will learn more than you could probably ever pay anyone to teach you.
Watch what you do, how your horse responds to you and you will learn what is effective, what is completely ineffective (and worse) what instigates an unintended negative cycle.
It’s always humbling every time I do it.
Long story condensed, I eventually got my horse tacked up completely loose in the barn aisle (which meant getting better at asking her to come back to where we were working. Without a lead rope. I had to do it a lot because no, she did not stand still as if tied while not tied to anything.)
I decided after the almost 3 hours invested in catching, getting into the barn and then getting a saddle on without a halter or lead- and the frigid wind gusting outside being a very big factor- I took the saddle back off and walked very relaxed together (yes with the bailing twine) triumphantly in some ways… back to the field and released.
Here is one of the nice moments in the process.
Later I reflected if this is a total waste of time and if my alpha-mare is possibly looking at me wondering when I’ll get my act together and take her in, get it done and ride her for heaven’s sake.
Honestly I’m not sure if that’s too human a thought process or not in this case. This is why I’m doing these half crazy things. The only way I’m going to have a better understanding is if I take what I DO know… and see what happens when I work with it.
Saturday I had some errands out of town. I didn’t spend much time at the barn. I fed then haltered Khaleesi – did a little bit of leading in the field, released her and walked away. She followed me to the gate and along the fence with me as I left so I felt that was positive.
Sunday I went with the thought that MAYBE today could be the day I get back in the saddle. But I’ve learned not to get too set in any plan until I show up and see what is going on.
I haltered K after feeding and using the halter as I WOULD USE THE BAILING TWINE I brought her to the barn. Today I untied the halter from the lead leaving the halter in place in case I decided to use it.
I wanted to tack up again without tying but I saw some things from Friday’s video I wanted to improve and just having a halter on could help.
Specifically I wanted to be able to effectively return her to the area I was working in and discourage so much of her roaming the entire barn aisle. I also wanted to get more efficient without time pressure- just not waste so much time.
I rarely touched the halter, but the entire process improved from my perspective. The challenge was increased slightly as Wild Heart was calling like a banshee- she didn’t get Khaleesi back but did get the gelding herd to return and then was making tons of noise as she interacted with them.
For anyone joining recently, Khaleesi is a pretty high level (in the herd) mare. She is in charge out there and who can say what those ridiculous stupid horses are up to without her to keep them straight. That made keeping her attention harder than otherwise.
unday went better in some ways, struggle for me in others. Sanity again questioned. Some great moments, sometimes I was at a loss. Some hail-wintry mix sounding on the barn roof. And in the end the saddle went on and I decided this was a good day to get back up there.
So outside we went with the mounting stool.
Lots of activity in the field. Wild Heart has all kinds of action going on with the gelding herd.
My first attempt to get in the saddle she begins to walk off. I hop off and return to try again.
Second time she stands still until I get situated then she begins walking immediately without my direction toward the fields.
I know exactly what we’ll be doing today.
She walks fast to the field and I let her. When arrived at the fence line I turn her immediately around and return to the stool (where I had mounted and not asked her to leave yet.)
Check and tighten girth<
he heads back to the fields trotting this time.
It feels kinda good to trot again. I love riding my horse.<
hen return at same speed to mounting stool.
Tighten other side of girth.
…she doesn’t want to stand still- trot to the fields. I encourage her to move out. return at same speed to stool.
Has to go back to fields.
Slow canter this time. Return same speed to stool.
Thinking. Waiting. Good.
I then ask an easy walk toward the gate (to exit property). I get most of the way there and she veers off at a quick trot to the fields again.
No prob. I understand. You think you HAVE to. I immediately turn us around again and we trot same speed back toward gate.
Rest. She pauses. Thinks.
Fidgets then heads back toward fields.
Quick trot there and immediate turn around we go back toward gate. Rest.
More relaxed. A little bit of thinking. Connection with me not the herd. Good.
I begin to walk easy back toward barn (we can end this now- good work).
En route to barn she picks up fast trot and veers back to fields. Again.
Ok not done quite yet.
Again not at all concerned (I can do this all day) I turn around and go back to exit gate.
She relaxes. Just waits. Seems to ask what next?
After a few moments resting there i turn her back to barn and she goes quiet, willing and does not try to return to the herds.
Now we are done.
I stop in front of barn. Get off and immediately drop tack right there.
> khaleesi doesn't move a hoof though completely untied in the yard while I remove all equipment and boots. She then does a big course of yawning and chewing.
.. then I give her time to process what just happened.
en I then walk her quiet at calm back to the same fields she's been trying to get to all afternoon and release her back into the herd. She walks into the field completely calm as I walk away.
s I'm waiting near the fields watching alone, I notice something a little fascinating. The gelding herd has left my mares and made its way over to where I was standing. The last interaction I'd had with them was described roughly in my herd where I asked them to get off the fence line and give me space to work with my mares.
It seems they are at the least curious about me. You can see my mares watching in the background.
verall it is a good day. I felt confident that today my saddle time was equally as effective at building our relationship as the ground time. And I plan to continue riding and working on trailer loading though I hope I can take the things I've seen in video and learned from the last couple weeks and improve my interactions as we get back to riding more consistently.